We teach our children in a repetitive fashion that a person cannot have everything go their way. We struggle to instill this rule through temper tantrums, snide teenagers, and know-it-all comments. Then slowly one can see this lesson take shape as a child faces adversity or loss without the previously mentioned reactions. Good parents work hard to remind children you simply cannot win all the time, even when the tears of defeat show in their innocent eyes. Whenever two parties, both undefeated, face off in battle one of them will lose. The law of averages and human experience shows us this is true. At these times a parent instills the knowledge that loss does not mean defeat.
So I find myself surprised by the number of adults that feel they should be the exception to this very rule. It is an ironic twist that in our adulthood we scoff and stomp when events don’t play out just as we wanted. Many place blame or look for excuses.
The real question is, if you could have had everything your way throughout your life would you really want it now?
When my mother passed at a young 53 I wanted her to live. I cursed and ranted that it was horrible unfair and willed it to be a dream. I wished my mother to remain alive, in a selfish need to have her close to me, but now as time passes and the hurt recedes I know I would only be wishing for her to suffer a longer more painful end. As a result of her passing I understand loss, and can relate to and offer my love to those who experience it. I grew more spiritual and strong in my life so I could be more like her.
Now as a mother I often wish for more time to write, and sigh as time slips from my finger to indulge in my hobby. The desire to sit before a computer without the regular motherhood interruptions of, “Mom. . .” is a blissful thought. It is a thought short lived though, as take a moment to dance in my living room with little giggling girls to, Alvin and the Chipmunks. I rethink my frustration as I sit to enjoy a family dinner, and my children share their day with me.
In another thought I wonder, would I strive harder and push more to enhance my writing skills if I met with instant success the on my first book? Would new ideas and thoughts come to me if I had no criticism? If I could have published my stories with no problems or difficult mistakes, would I have learned? Maybe, but I think it would not have been so profound.
We cannot always win, for it is loss that teaches us to endure. We cannot always have our way for it is adversity the teaches to adapt. We cannot always have joy for it is sadness the teaches love.
Our trials and life battles shape us. They make us strong and wise. They make us compassionate and humble. I know if I could go back and change everything to the way I originally wanted, my life would be a chaotic mess, and I would invariably have a big ego in need of serious adjustment. Much like a two year old who is given candy each time they cry, I would have learned nothing.
There is no exception to the rule of life. We would not want it to be so even if there was. There are always passing moments in time in which we find ourselves thinking, “why me?” However they are truly fleeting moments. So hold your chin up, fight for your right to grow and learn, you will be better for it if you heed the lessons offered. From now on, I know I will look around and instead be thinking, how can I grow and enjoy this adventure called life?
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As I go over the final edits of my second novel and see the mistakes, I have a hard time. The self-doubts return and the self-criticism is worse. Many who read my first book, remember the pages full of editing errors. It is hard to move forward from that. I wondered for a time if I was not making a mistake. I thought, “Why on earth am devoting so much effort into this?”
Giving up would have been a simple matter. I had several opportunities to do so. I could have ended the dream to be published when the first rejection letters came back from the big publishers. I could have stepped away from the keyboard when the first publisher who did take me on fell through. I wanted to walk away when I struggled to learn how to self-publish, and met many challenges doing so.
The reasons to quit were many, the benefits to continue diminished, hidden behind adversity’s wicked veil. I felt inadequate and small in a world full of skilled writers and fierce competition. Had it not been for the encouragement from people who love me I may have given in sooner, ultimately, falling back on the adage, “At least I tried.” When people asked me what do you do or where do you work? I never once said, “I am a writer.” I struggled to find pride in my chosen skill.
There came a profound moment of clarity when I sat before my computer working one night. On Amazon someone highlighted my own words from, Forgotten Enemy:
“It’s how we act against our fear that makes us who we are. The actions we take against our fears and trials shape us in this life.”
I believe these words as truth. As a mother of five, I teach this principle to my children. How could I not use them to empower me now? Instead of thinking, “Why bother?” I changed my attitude. I now asked, “Why not me?” Throughout my writing journey I have learned so much. Every effort that met adversity was one in which I grew and changed. Without those challenges I would be less than I am now. Now when challenges arise, I rise with them.
Even the most gifted violinist has missed a note. The most proficient soccer player still falls from time to time, and every author has a story with conflict. All that matters is that we endure and learn from each experience. I will continue to follow this road I have taken, and I will do it knowing I will succeed.
As the release date for my second book, The Price of Knowing, nears I share with you all a small piece of advice:
“Sometimes, things have to go wrong in order to go right.”
Let’s have a contest for a FREE signed copy of, The Price of Knowing!! To enter all you need to do follow the link below and create your own review of Book I, Forgotten Enemy, on Amazon. Then message me on Facebook that you did it and the date you did it on. Give me your honest opinion. Did you like it? What were your favorite parts or quotes? Would you recommend it to someone? Anything like that helps. If you have already reviewed, Forgotten Enemy you only need to message me on Facebook the date and you are entered into the raffle. The WINNER will be announced on October 18th. Good luck and Thanks!
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Okay friends, here is you chance for an official sneak peek at, The Price of Knowing. all you need to do is give your honest feedback. Click the link below, download and enjoy! Only 14 more days until it will finally be released.
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Critical feedback while hard to take can be a lifesaver. It is important to listen with an open mind. I learned through my wonderful friends and editors that I use the word, “some” and “Just” too often. I decided to take a look and found I really did. MS Word makes that easy to verify by clicking find, you enter the word and it MS word counts how may times you use it. (I won’t embarrass myself by sharing the actual number of times.) In life I know feedback can be hard everyone hold themselves to high standards and when mistakes or problems are pointed out it can be easy to get frustrated. I feel differently though. Each time someone points out my little flaws I see an opportunity to grow. Side note, correction made and noted for the future. It is important to be honest so a person can grow with each experience.Read More
If you happen to stop by the Hot Springs County Library this week You will get to see me as the featured author there. The Hot Springs County Library is located at 344 Arapahoe in Thermopolis, Wyoming. It is a wonderful community resource with a friendly staff and wonderful volunteers. I am so grateful to have such a great group of friends and supporters that they would go to so much effort on this. I would like to offer a special thanks to Jenna Devries for she was the head of this project, and she is a great friend. I write because I love to, but is sure nice to share the stories with so many great people. I cannot do that without all of you. Regardless of the many advances in technology today word of mouth is still the very best way to advertise and spread the word. To all of you out in Thermopolis I hope you enjoy Forgotten Enemy, an I hope you know How great the people are who work out at the library.
WOW! Here is the cover for my next upcoming book, The Price of Knowing. The design is done by Bill Ennis with Tradeshow Outfitters. I am so excited to share this with you all. The journey to becoming an author has been amazing. I could not have done this without my support network. My husband, my family and friends, and of course all the readers that have jumped in with me, made the path easier. I love you all. Thanks for making the bad times good, and good times perfect!Read More
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I was so excited to see the response from the free Kindle promotion this week. There were over 7000 downloads!!! Not only that, but we have had some great new reviews of, Forgotten Enemy. I would like to thank all of you who have reviewed my book, and I can’t wait to hear from all of you that are still getting to it.
I would like to give a shout out to a couple of those reviewers. Mel’s Two Cents Book Reviews took the time to read, Forgotten Enemy, and you can find her review here, http://melkinsbookblog.blogspot.com/2013/07/forgotten-enemy-powers-of-influence-by.html.
Also Crossroad Reviewers, a dedicated Amazon reviewer jumped in to review it as well. You can find their review along with all the other Amazon reviews of, Forgotten Enemy, at http://www.amazon.com/Forgotten-Enemy-Powers-Influence-ebook/product-reviews/B00AQ4YCAY/ref=cm_cr_dp_synop?ie=UTF8&showViewpoints=0&sortBy=bySubmissionDateDescending#R32CEK81DHG94K
Thanks again to all of you for your support. If you don’t have an Amazon account, but got my book and would like to give me feedback please do. Post your comments here or jump in and join me on Facebook.Read More